I read a short story forty odd years ago about a man complaining to his friend that he had no time for leisure activities. He worked it out mathematically through the numbers of hours per year spent sleeping, on holidays, eating, at work etc. The friend pointed out the flaw that you sleep while on holidays etc - he was counting them concurrently rather than simultaneously.
I am constantly amazed by the number of people I hear about who attend poetry events, or spend two weeks on artists retreats, or who have produced novels or other large volumes of work. Where, I ask, do they find the time?
Personally, I spend 12 hours a day actually in work. Include time travelling, washing, making lunches etc, its nearer 14 hours a day. I do this on 3 days and 4 days a week alternatively.
On these days I have absolutely no time for writing.
In addition to my work, I write about 12,000 words a month for the local paper and write two columns for the the football club programme twice a month. Admittedly, I can do much of this while working nights but when I'm on days, this is extra
On the other 3/4 days, my wife, who has not seen me for all the time I am in work, is not impressed if I spend the time in the solitary occupation of writing. And I don't blame her. Roles reversed, I would want me to help with jobs around the house, go shopping and spend a bit of quality time with me.
My question is - is it possible for a married person with a job and a family to really have the time to develop as a writer? Do you have to be unemployed, or retired, or employ a nanny and an au pair? I have no idea where to find the time for writing and not feel guilty that I'm neglecting my family.